Moms – 4 Reasons to Date Your Sons

She twirled around the house in her pink sparkly dress. “Daddy is going to love it,” she said as she prepared for her date with dad… and her brother stood there in the doorway, arms crossed and eyes rolling.

We see so many articles out there about dads dating their daughters, and that’s awesome! More and more fathers are becoming aware of their influence and regularly dating their daughters. But, the articles and awareness made me look at my son and wonder, what am I doing for him to show him he is a priority?

Attention all moms…. Our sons need us, too. Little boys leave smudges on your heart, and moms make an indelible imprint on the lives of their sons. So, here are 4 reasons moms should be purposeful, intentional and ….yes, we should DATE our sons.

1. Moms have a profound impact on their son’s lives
Mothers of boys know that the bonds can be strong… and complex. Mothers may have a difficult time understanding exactly what a young man is experiencing in life, but sons depend on their moms more than many may think. The love of a mother can and does make boys stronger, emotionally, and psychologically. Contrary to the “mama’s boy” image, the base of safety a loving mother can create, provides boys with the courage to explore the outside world. The bond boys have with their mothers can help them to be more successful in many different areas of their lives!

2. Moms set the relationship standard and the “person” standard for their sons
Every interaction a mother has with her son has the potential to shape his perspective and impact his future relationships. Plus, our kids are watching us as people. They get a lot more of an idea about what is right, wrong, good and bad from what we do than what we say. So take your position as a mom seriously. One of the greatest things we can do for our sons is to model the kind of people we want them to be, and give them the one-on-one time to see us as a “person” outside of our day-to-day “mom” roles.

3. Sons might just open up with one-on-one time
Boys need to talk. Even the quietest ones will open up when given the chance. When you can get them out on a date, alone – make it clear that you WANT to hear about their interests, and their lives. Be patient. It’s ok to push through the ‘awkward,’ silence and just be available and comfortable. A Mom that can listen and not criticize or manipulate is really super-valuable.

4. It’s the perfect opportunity to just have fun
As moms, we often throw ourselves in our daily roles. Life gets chaotic and stressful. Things get in the way, and what was meant to be quality time becomes really like quantity time when the laundry piles up, dishes have to be done, and emails have to be answered. Setting aside time for our sons lets them know that they are important – more important than all the “stuff” that fills up our lives otherwise. Plus, a date is a great time to let loose and just laugh and have fun. It can be a time of re-connection and refreshing for both of you.